Sometimes what we don’t say says just as much as what we actually do. At this past weekend’s PGA Championship, we saw not only an epic race to the finish – and a race against daylight – but several subtle signals that let us know what was going through some of the top players’ minds as they made the last golf major of the season a memorable one.
Rickie Fowler, who may have the best major season no one will remember (he’s finished 5th, 2nd, 2nd, and 3rd), and his first-class fist-bumps with playing partner Phil Mickelson showed a sign of respect for his competitor. Not only was Mickelson chasing, and then passing Fowler, but the two seemed to be cheering for one another and offering their congrats after great shots. Think of a fist-bump on the fairways as golf’s silent version of “well played.”
Rory McIlroy, winner of his past three tournaments and two straight majors, seemed to keep a cool head this time around, until he hit his final put in near darkness, then let a triumphant fist pump show what he had been so deftly bottling up during the final day of the championship.
Mickelson, while looking charged up after nailing long puts, also had his face show frustrations, especially when the officials allowed McIlroy and his partner play with Mickelson and Fowler on the final hole…a regular occurrence for us average Joes, but certainly not in a major.
So in any situation, whether it is on the course where even the commentators whisper, or in corporate America, remember:
- Face-Off: Any scowl, smile or smirk are dead giveaways to what you’re truly feeling. You may not notice it, but others certainly will.
- Fists of Fury: From fist pumps to fist bumps, both indicate a great deal of emotion. Even when simply clenched, it can be a sign of aggression. Relaxing your hands, even just a bit, can help you keep your poker face.
- Feel Receptors: People may forget what you say, but not how you make them feel. Whether it’s a cold shoulder or a warm embrace, your body language is communication that everyone understands. And whether you intend to or not, your non-verbal signals speak for you loud and clear.